Comfort Zones of High Achievers

“Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions.”
– Cynthia Kivland

In my previous blog, Why High Achievers Flounder, I talked about how SMARTER workplaces create a culture and emotional climate that inspires high achievers to continually grow as professionals. I encounter high-achievers frequently in my coaching work and when training future coaches.

You may recognize yourself as a high achiever. Or, perhaps you started out that way but have let yourself fade into the background. You play it safe, maybe even telling yourself that since you are “above the norm” you do not need to learn or risk more?
I understand that completely. When you’re used to having things come easily to you, it’s only natural to shy away from assignments that stretch your comfort zone and increase your personal vulnerability.

When you have a successful self-image to protect, you find yourself avoiding risk. Instead, many high achievers like yourself hunker down and lock themselves into routines at the expense of professional growth.

Trust me on this, it is possible to break this cycle and get back on track for career success. In fact, it’s not only possible — it’s essential if you want to flourish in top leadership roles. Understand that social intelligence is a key to career success and significance.

First, take a hard look at yourself. Identify any of the eight traps into which you’ve fallen. Which traps escalate your anxieties and cause you to engage in unproductive behaviors?

Next, adopt new practices that give you the courage to step out of your comfort zone. This isn’t easy, and it won’t happen overnight. Assess your Career Health, and then work with a coach, peer or trusted colleague to develop an action plan of behavioral change.

It’s a hard truth, but the talent and skills that got you “here” won’t take you “there.” Your best thinking may not be enough. As intelligent as you may be, you simply cannot know what you don’t know.

What do you think about comfort zones and high achievers in your workplace?

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SMARTER Workplaces:
Why High Achievers Flounder

“Many high performers would rather do the wrong things well
than do the right thing poorly.”

- Thomas J. DeLong and Sara DeLong, “The Paradox of Excellence,”
Harvard Business Review, June 2011

Leaders are high achievers who continually grow as professionals. But in many organizations, there are high achievers who are floundering. They’re smart, ambitious professionals who aren’t as productive or satisfied as they could be. Many ascend to leadership positions and reach a plateau in their professional growth. I encounter high-achievers frequently in the workplaces I do coaching. It’s one of the driving reasons people come in for private coaching. (Read SMARTER Workplaces Have a Heart). Throughout their careers, they’ve been told they’re high potentials. They should be flourishing, but what I see is that they often let anxiety about their performance compromise their ability to learn and grow.

They have a big fear of revealing their limitations and this may cause high achievers to undermine their careers and hamper their leadership abilities. In my book Smart2Smarter, How Emotional and Social Connections Bring Humanity into the Workplace, 2011, I discuss the skill of reciprocity – the ability to give and receive, lead and be led, teach and be taught. Many of my coaching clients know they can perform better, and are often referred to a coach due to high employee turnover and low employee engagement. These very smart leaders resist asking for help, unless it’s in private sessions with a coach. It is the skill of reciprocity, that is taught in Workplace Coach Institute’s Social and Emotional Intelligence Workplace Coach Certifications, that give leaders and coaches tools to understand why and how social reciprocity is a must have skill that global employers want – especially from high achievers!

If you’re a high achiever, then you’re used to winning and accustomed to turning out remarkable performance. But what happens when you’re in over your head or on an accelerating treadmill that’s going nowhere fast? For example, when challenged by new technologies or strategic game changes, you’re probably unwilling to admit it and often refuse to ask others for help.

Paradoxically, the very strengths that led you to the fast track can steer you toward poor performance. There was a recent article on this in Harvard Business Review. High performers exhibit eight typical behaviors, according to authors Thomas J. and Sara DeLong in “The Paradox of Excellence” (HBR, June 2011):

  1. Driven to achieve results: Achievers don’t let anything get in the way of goal completion. But they can become so caught up in tasks that colleagues get pushed aside. Transparency or helping others feels like a waste of valuable time.
  2. Doers: Because nobody can do it as well or as quickly as they can, they drift into poor delegation or micromanagement.
  3. Highly motivated: Achievers take their work seriously, but they fail to see the difference between the urgent and the merely important—a potential path to burnout.
  4. Addicted to positive feedback: Achievers care how others perceive them and their work, but they tend to ignore positive feedback and obsess over criticism.
  5. Competitive: Achievers go overboard in their competitive drive; they obsessively compare themselves to others. This leads to a chronic sense of insufficiency, false calibrations and career missteps.
  6. Passionate about work: Achievers feed on the highs of successful work but are subject to crippling lows. They tend to devote more attention to what’s lacking (the negative), rather than what’s right (the positive).
  7. Safe risk takers: Because they are so passionate about success, they shy away from risk and the unknown. They won’t stray far from their comfort zone.
  8. Guilt-ridden: No matter how much they accomplish, achievers believe it’s never enough. They want more. When they do complete a milestone, they don’t take the time to savor the moment. They expect to be successful, so they deny themselves the chance to fully appreciate the joy of achievement.

What do you think about these traps? Recognize yourself in any of them? I’d love to hear your comments.

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Cynthia Kivland, Author Smart2Smarter; www.smart2smarter.com and President of Workplace Coach Institute, Inc. Leadership and coaching solutions for global talent!

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Eight Tips to Choose a Workplace Coach

Eight Tips to Choose a Workplace Coach:

To stay competitive, relevant and innovative, workplaces must do more with less talent. Providing a leadership and career coach is one way to keep your employees “emotionally engaged” to contribute their personal best.

“There’s no question that future leaders will need constant coaching,” notes Ram Charan, Leadership in the Era of Economic Uncertainty (McGraw-Hill, 2008). “As the business environment becomes more complex, they will increasingly turn to coaches for help in understanding how to act.”

Willingness to be coached and a good fit are two of the key ingredients for a successful coaching relationship. This was reinforced in a January 2009 Harvard Business Review survey, in which researchers queried 140 top coaches about what companies should look for when hiring a coach.

According to the HBR article, there are two basic hiring rules:

  1. Ensure leaders or teams are ready and willing to be coached
  2. Allow them to choose the coach

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How Smart People Lose Their MOJO
& How to Get it Back!

Part One: Losing Your Career MOJO

If you’ve been progressing in your career, or a college student studying hard to maintain that “GPA”, chances are you’ve experienced at least one career “hiccup” or setback. These career hiccups can suck the air out of one’s spirit, making it hard to carry on with dignity and drive. Often, our mental energy is hijacked, our self esteem bruised, and we limit our social connections out of shame or embarrassment. Some of the “hiccups” that can happen to hardworking, well-meaning, capable, and very smart people include:

  • Not going for that big opportunity
  • Getting passed up for a promotion
  • Losing money
  • Getting fired
  • Not getting into graduate school

Career-altering events can happen to anyone — and they do. But when they happen to very smart people, they may seem incomprehensible, largely because smart people have worked so hard , have rarely experienced failure, may have few experiences of “bouncing back” and have dedicated their life to the task or company more than their well being or relationships.

But even when we can partially blame external events, there comes a time when we must take a hard look at what we could have done differently. Despite faltering companies, imperfect leaders, coworkers who don’t like us and other external variables, we must eventually engage in private, honest reflection to get our MOJO back. This honest reflection gives the human spirit space and time to breathe. Reflection also allows one to tap into the intelligence of emotions to acknowledge, accept, and appreciate the event, and the wisdom that was gained. What part did I play in the events leading up to the career crossroads?

What is Career MOJO?

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What is Respectful Leadership?

Defining Respectful Leadership: What it is, how it can be measured, and another glimpse at what it is related to.

Research on work values shows that respectful leadership is highly desired by employees. On the applied side, however, the extant research does not offer many insights as to which concrete leadership behaviors are perceived by employees as indications of respectful leadership.Thus, to offer such insights, we collected and content analyzed employees’ narrations of encounters with respectful leadership (N1 = 426). The coding process resulted in 19 categories of respectful leadership spanning 149 leadership behaviours. Furthermore, to also harness this comprehensive repertoire for quantitative organizational research, we undertook two more studies (N2a = 228; N2b = 412) to empirically derive a feasible item-based measurement of respectful leadership and assess its psychometric qualities.

In these studies, we additionally investigated the relationships between respectful leadership as assessed with this new measurement and employees’ vertical and contextual followership as assessed via subordinates’ identification with their leaders, their appraisal respect for their leaders, their feeling of self- determination, and their job-satisfaction.

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Emotional Intelligence in an Outcome Based Environment

Cynthia shares her Case Study of Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace Using the MBTI and Firo-B.

Considerable attention has been devoted in recent years to the impacts of individuals’ “emotional intelligence (EI)” competencies and how they are used for successful performance – whether at work or in their private lives. In this section, we will provide an overview of key EI concepts and competencies that impact leaders’ development and performance in preparation for the content that follows.

One of the individuals who helped popularize the EI topic was Daniel Goleman in his first book entitled, Emotinal Intelligence (1996). In that work, Goleman cited the following key points relative to EI competencies and their application for leaders:

  • Goleman’s research in more than 500 organizations showed that EI accounts for more than 85 percent of outstanding performance in top leaders
  • EI is a better predictor of top performance than IQ
  • EI is two times as important to leadership effectiveness as IQ and technical expertise combined
  • EI is four times as important in terms of overall leadership success

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Emotional and Social Intelligence and New Dad Study

Just in time for Father’s Day, this study looks at Today’s Dad as Caring, Committed & Conflicted about Work-Life – and that social and emotional intelligence really does matter to parenting and career engagement.

Upcoming certification programs on social and emotional intelligence for leaders, human resources, teams, coaches, counselors and parents begin Fall 2011 at workplacecoachinstitute.com

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Taming the Crazy Busy Workplace

Frantic, forgetful, fragmented and flummoxed. Does this describe your workplace or someone you work with? If so, you’re not alone. Many workplaces are driven by a frenetic, globalized, technology-driven, task focused climate.

Has your workplace developed a culture of activity, aided by technology, IPads, latest gadgets, and email 24/7? Are employees expected to work longer and be “on call” wherever and whenever? If this sounds like your workplace, then recognize that your leaders and employees “emotional and social pulse” is dealing with escalating demands often with conflicting life or work choices. The result is a workplace that zaps creativity, stalls innovation, minimizes social humanity, and decreases career engagement, laughter, and overall psychological well being.

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